How to find Miss Right

Finding Miss Right - who should I date & marry?

The girls may have already met our friend Bob Charisma in our article for who they should be looking for (or not as the case mey be) - now fellas - meet our friend Lisa Lovable or 'seductive Sue' as I was going to call her but thought better of it. Every man's perfect woman! Colourful, smart, funny, curvey, successful, beautiful - beautiful? Hmmm.... it might be a good idea to take off your love-at-first site goggles (don't Google now make these?.. I've had a pair from birth!) before we start so we can see a bit more clearly and figure out - who really is your, and our as Christians - Miss Right according to The Bible.

A bit of decernment might come in handy lads...

Many things are attractive about people. Honesty, kindness, Intelligence, witt, charisma, physical appearance, down- to-earthness, self confidence, the list is endless. Trouble is, many not -so-nice characteristics are attractive too. Sticking to the rules designed to keep us on the straight and narrow can seem ever so dull and boring - quite unattractive. However the rules are there to give us life in abundance and we must decide at the outset not to deliberately break them or throw in our lot with unseemly characters. Unseemliness is a seductive lifestyle but in the end, it leads away from fulfillment.

The characteristics displayed by Lisa Lovable may be built on firm foundations in God - making her eligible indeed. Or, they may not. You have to be decerning! (see decernment and the characteristsic of a noble wife).

The Bible on dating and finding a good Christian wife and partner

What does the Bible say about miss right?

What kind of person should you date? II Timothy 2:22, TLB.
"enjoy the companionship of those who love the Lord." "Don't team with those who do not love the Lord, for what do people of God have in common with people of sin? Can light live with darkness?" II Corinthians 6:14-15

should a Christian be partner to an unbeliever?
"how can two walk together, unless they are agreed?" Amos 3:3, NKJV says

Date someone who lives -not just talks a Christian life, I Corinthians 5:11.
"you are not to keep company with anyone who claims to be a Christian but indulges in [physically intimate] sins, or is greedy, or is a swindler, or worships idols, is a drunkard, or abusive. Don't even eat with such a person."

Don't date bad tempered people, Proverbs 22:24, TLB.
"Keep away from angry, short-tempered men, lest you learn to be like them and endanger your soul."

Avoid lazy Christians, II Thessalonians 3:6, TLB.
"Stay away from any Christian who spends his days in laziness and does not follow the ideal of hard work we set up for you."

Inner beauty is more important than outer, I Peter 3:4, TLB.
"Be beautiful inside, in your hearts, with the lasting charm of a gentle and quiet spirit that is so precious to God."

Date someone who knows how to encourage, Philippians 2:1-2,
"Is there any such thing as Christians cheering each other up? Does it mean anything to you that we are brothers in the Lord, sharing the same Spirit? Are your hearts tender and sympathetic at all? Then truly love each other, working together with one heart, mind and purpose."